Managing Your Thoughts

Thinking is basically us attaching our thoughts to things seen or imagined. We experience our emotions based on how we interpret our attachment.

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There was a time I attached my thoughts to the challenges of surviving and all my energy was put into trying to survive as the drama of life unfolded. The contents of my mind were fear, anger, frustration which caused stress, illnesses and many other challenges. Everything I viewed in life, I viewed it through those lenses. It affected all my relationships.

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I’ve seen people live long years sometimes into their 90’s, a full-blown life cycle battling survival and at the end, they realized that they never truly lived. They were tormented by the thoughts they attached to themselves.
As a writer, I am challenged to focus on bringing my books to life or maybe a script or a life lesson I learned. And every time I do, I feel good about my accomplishments. It is a lot different from the life I lived when my focus was on surviving.
Do you know the focus of your current life? Is it what you want it to be or do you need to make a shift? If you can answer those questions then you will be on your way to managing your thought to focus on achieving the goals you set yourself.

The Power of Distance

If it’s too close to you, it will destroy you.

There is a power in distance. For a long time, I kept my thoughts close to my heart. As a youngster, I worried about a lot of things that I was burdened with pain. Whether I was jogging or walking I kept my head looking down so I could be close to my thoughts. In the moments when I lifted my head, I felt a dramatic shift. My thoughts no longer felt like a burden.

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Today, I concluded that I needed to keep a distance between my thoughts and my body. Now, I take every opportunity to lift my head high. I recognize that some of the most important things in life keep their distance. The sun shines from above. The rain comes from above. The moonlight comes from above. The air that we breathe comes from above.

When we distance ourselves from our thoughts, it allows us to look at things objectively. It allows us to be unattached to situations that normally create fear and anger. When we keep our thoughts in the distance, it allows us to operate in peace and with love. Try keeping in your thoughts in the distance recognizing that its purpose is to serve you and not absorb you.

Remember if the sun came too close to you, it could burn us up. If the rain came too close in its fall, it could drown us. And if our thoughts linger too close to our hearts, it could put a strain beyond repair.

Lift your head high, keep your thoughts in the distance, and enjoy its service of love, peace, and gratitude.

Restoring Spiritual Health

I admit there are times I feel spiritually bankrupt, that feeling of illness on my horizon. It is in those times I reconnect with the old gospel songs of my youth. You see, I grew up with Pat Boone and Jim Reeves and in going back and listening to their music and looking at the photos of their vinyl records, I remember the joy on Mom’s face as she introduced me to songs like “The Old Rugged Cross,” and “There Is No Secret.” When I here Jim Reese sing “This World Is Not My Home,” I could see the smiles on Grandma’s face as I knelt by her bed. And at that moment, I stretch my arms, grown to the golden voices of these singers and I feel the chains binding my emotions as they break and fall to pieces and then a light calm comes over me and I am at peace within and spiritually fulfilled.

What’s In Your Inbox

The mind is like an Email account. Think of it this way, when we access our email account, we have separate folders for junk mail and real mail. We delete the junk mail and then browse through the real mail deleting as we go. We keep the mail we deem important.

What if we treat our mind like our inbox. We access it when we awake. We discard junk meaningless thoughts and keep only the important thoughts.

What if we kept thoughts that empowers us? What if we kept thoughts that made us happy? What if we kept thoughts that gave us peace of mind? What if we kept thoughts that made us feel optimistic?


We can continue to process new thoughts as they come in. We can continue to separate and discard junk thoughts and keep the meaningful thoughts. If you decide to try this. when you complete the task. Ask yourself, “What’s in my inbox?” Hopefully the answer will be, “A Smile.”

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Orabis Grill Bar Restaurant Review – Cedar Hill, TX Finest

There is something to be excited about if you live in the Cedar Hill area of town and that is the Orabis Grill Bar. Located just off Beltline Rd and Joe Wilson Road next to the Neighborhood Walmart, this Mediterranean Restaurant serves up a mouth-watering delicious menu of Gyros like you’ve never had them before.

It’s easy to access and it’s spacious parking lot makes this a hassle-free stop.

The interior of the restaurant is clean and spacious.

We started out our meal with an order of calamari. It was crunchy and nicely flavored. We delved into it and then the thought came that we should probably take a picture before it disappears.

Want to try something interesting? Try dipping some of this steamed vegetables on display into the bowl of hummus. It only adds to the magic of the experience.

If there is one reason to visit the Mediterranean restaurant it’s because of the prospect of sinking into a delicious Gyro and Orabis has turned this tasty favorite into a work of art. Each bite induces us to lose ourselves into a journey by sea across the Mediterranean. You’ll be thinking to yourself that you wouldn’t mind eating this every day.

What’s just as equally important as fine dining? The staff of course? Chef Sana originally from Israel is a joy to be around. She has such great memory that she remembered us from our previous dining. She gives us lot’s of compliments and her hospitality makes dining a homely experience.

Still reading this? If you are, it is a good time to jump in your car and head on down to the Orabis Grill Bar and enjoy some 5 Star dining. Orabis Grill Bar is the place to be for a dining experience of a lifetime.

Just For Fun! – Breaking Trends On Facebook

There is a new hot and striving group on Facebook called Just For Fun!. It touches many topics on relationships and it gets edgy at times. In its early stage of development, it’s already approaching active 1500 members predominantly from the Dallas area. This makes “Just For Fun!” a walking Facebook meets YELP. It is the kind of group that excites all forms of business entities.

It’s founder Tracy Record is a natural who spurns conversation just by posting a topic that people identifies with. It was while monitoring her posts, I recognized that she will be the ideal candidate to host an Online Group about relationships. She jumped to the idea and “Just For Fun!” was born.

Tracy not only posts interesting topics, but she also organizes Meetup events where members greet each other and engage in fun times.

Her most recent event at the Miller Tavern in Arlington saw 35 members show up to eat chicken wings and drink cocktails while posing for a few photos. It was easy for an introvert like myself to feel appreciated and wanted and I left with a fulfilled feeling and a permanent smile on my face.

With such a huge gathering of fun loving people located within the DFW area, “Just For Fun!” is a launching pad for all events and occasions. They are even thinking of a cruise.

What works well for “Just For Fun!” is a committed Admin that are regularly brainstorming strategies to make the group interesting. The members have varying strengths and when they come together, they create cohesive ideas that enhance the group.

Could “Just For Fun!” be a trendsetter in the dating industry? Social media is here to stay and now is the perfect time for Facebook Groups to embrace innovation and propel it into the future. “Just For Fun!” is like a mobile Facebook meeting a mobile YELP and it is all done under the umbrella of fun and good times in a group that treat members like family and is a feasting ground for business entities as they seek new ways to target their potential markets.

Just For Fun! is free and can be accessed by clicking the link below.

The 10-Second Stress Rule

Many of the wounds that carry deep hurt within us were done to us by others, but if we focus on those that have hurt us and not on the wound, we will always be wounded and we will do the things wounded people do. That is, wounded people hurt others. Think of it this way, what if you stepped on a nail? For a few moments, you may be angry with the nail. but after a couple of days, you will focus your attention on the hurt and not on the nail.

Growing up in the rural areas of Grenada, my grandparents use to wake us up at 5:30 AM to go weed the garden so that the crops could grow in abundance. We were not going to focus on the wind that brought the weeds. Our focus was on the weeds themselves. Has someone hurt you in the past? If so, treat them like the wind and change your focus to remove the weeds of hurt that is preventing you from flourishing into a beautiful abundant garden. Try the 10-Second Stress Rule to remove deeply embedded emotional hurt. The first step is to breathe in mentally pushing your breath to the count of 10. The second step is to breathe out mentally pushing your breath to the count of 10. Repeat the process until you’ve completed 10 reps. The emotional weeds within you should disappear or be minimized after the 10th rep. Repeat the process at least three times a week.

The focus of hurt should never be on the person that causes you to hurt. The focus should be on the hurt within you and removing it using the 10-Second Stress Rule. Remember hurt people hurt people. Take the time to free yourself from the weeds that bind your growth.