Many of the wounds that carry deep hurt within us were done to us by others, but if we focus on those that have hurt us and not on the wound, we will always be wounded and we will do the things wounded people do. That is, wounded people hurt others. Think of it this way, what if you stepped on a nail? For a few moments, you may be angry with the nail. but after a couple of days, you will focus your attention on the hurt and not on the nail.
Growing up in the rural areas of Grenada, my grandparents use to wake us up at 5:30 AM to go weed the garden so that the crops could grow in abundance. We were not going to focus on the wind that brought the weeds. Our focus was on the weeds themselves. Has someone hurt you in the past? If so, treat them like the wind and change your focus to remove the weeds of hurt that is preventing you from flourishing into a beautiful abundant garden. Try the 10-Second Stress Rule to remove deeply embedded emotional hurt. The first step is to breathe in mentally pushing your breath to the count of 10. The second step is to breathe out mentally pushing your breath to the count of 10. Repeat the process until you’ve completed 10 reps. The emotional weeds within you should disappear or be minimized after the 10th rep. Repeat the process at least three times a week.
The focus of hurt should never be on the person that causes you to hurt. The focus should be on the hurt within you and removing it using the 10-Second Stress Rule. Remember hurt people hurt people. Take the time to free yourself from the weeds that bind your growth.