Ten Things I Hate About Messenger (For Humor Only)

  • I hate when people send a video without explaining the content. Is it a virus? Is it a bomb? What am I looking for? Some of the thoughts going around my head. It turns out that it is a lame video that they are excited about. Are they that busy that they could send a video but couldn’t find the time to explain its contents? Who are these people?
  • I hate that Messenger has no sense of time and comes with a loud ping whenever it announces a message. 4 in the morning, the time when sleep is at its finest hour, Messenger announces the arrival of a message with a loud PING. Is it a family emergency? Did someone get killed? Oh no, its an inspirational piece from a daring friend or relative telling you that God loves you and not only that, He is THINKING OF YOU.
  • I hate that Messenger puts you on someone’s instant post and everything thing that person does come up on your message. Now I’m forced to sit there and watch everything a person does for the rest of their lives. What a slow and painful way to die.

I hate when my friends send me a message to say look out for viruses and don’t open any messages from Messenger. Well, guess what, I JUST DID. What’s wrong with these people?

I hate messages that start with Hi. Some of the biggest schemers found out that its the best way to scheme someone and they use it all the time.

I hate people who somehow believe that in this complicated world of dating that they can find their true love on Messenger and no only that, they convinced themselves that I am their true love. Well, guess what, YOU ARE WACKO. You are the reason relationships fail.

I hate people who tell you sad stories on Messenger. What am I supposed to do with your sad story? Sit there and grieve while you ride off in the sunset without the deposited excrement that you dump on me?

I hate fundraisers that start on Messengers. It’s like I’m cornered. There is no way out of it other than to say “HELL NO,” only to find yourself alienated by people who cared about you.

I hate people who dump their Sunday Service on my Messenger. Let me put it this way nicely, it wasn’t by accident that I didn’t show up at your church. Trust me, if it was that important I would have been there. I don’t normally miss funerals. STOP IT.

And the 10th reason I hate Messenger is because of people who sends me a Messenger and tells me I should get out of Messenger because they are selling my information. Guess what, one year later, they are still on Messenger sending out other alarming messages. WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE?

NB. If you are easily offended, you shouldn’t be reading this. Oops. It’s too late. My bad.

Take a Deep Breath, Stress is a Normal Entity of Life – How To Turn Stress Into Fun Activities.

Stress is normal. Just like hunger or being thirsty, it is normal to be stressed at times. When we feel hunger coming on, we eat. We make an event out of eating. We gather the family together, say a prayer and dive into the meal. During the meal, we have good conversations and laughter. Then we are satisfied, we either order a take-out box or we clean up after ourselves. Not everyone is fortunate to have this experience as some truly have to live with their hunger wondering where the next meal will come from? They don’t have the financial security to ensure that something as normal as eating a meal is guaranteed. 

Overworked african businessman sitting at his desk.

When we feel thirsty, we grab a drink, preferably water. It is in those moments of quenching our thirst that water feels heavenly. Not everyone is fortunate to have readily access to water. For those people, survival becomes a daily challenge. But have you ever tried drinking water when you are not thirsty? Have you ever tried eating your favorite meal when you are not hungry? I can tell you, it is not the best thing to experience. It feels torturous.

I’ve used hunger and thirst in this article as illustrations for the basics of life, but what does it have to do with stress? Like hunger, and thirst, stress is brought on by lack or a diminish in the flow of oxygen. Just as when we are hungry, we eat, when we are stressed, we should breathe. I am not talking about going about our normal business of unconscious breathing, I am talking about making an event out of breathing. Picture yourself lying on a hospital bed hooked up to an oxygen chamber with induced breathing. It is not that dramatic, but it drives the idea that our focus should be totally on our breathing to restore our body to a diminished stress level. Awareness is the key to take action on stress and stress is not shy about revealing itself. We literally can feel emotional pain when we breathe. 

Just as we make time to eat and drink, we should make time to breathe. In the song “Rat Race,” Bob Marley sings, “In the abundance of water, a fool is thirsty.” If we were to replace those lyrics to reference breathing, it will read, “In the abundance of oxygen, a fool is stressed out.”

Stress is normal. It is a way of the body communicating the affect of our thoughts and actions. If we are working too much, stress builds up. If we are having too much of a fun activity, stress builds up. Stress reminds us of the need for balance. When stress comes on, we need to take a break from what we are doing and focus on our breathing. We can do fun stuff with our breathing. We can hold our breath and feel it soothing our emotions and then let it out. We can repeat the process until we feel our stress level reduced. We can stretch in the process or we can exercise. Whatever, means we use to tackle stress, we can make it enjoyable and meaningful. We can repeat the process as long as is necessary to bring it under control. 

Many of us were brought up to feel guilty about our stress. I will tell you that there is no need for guilt as stress is a normal indicator for the present quality of our life experience. Make time to attend to your stress and make it enjoyable in the process, because stress is normal.

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Talk – J. Howell ft. Kyle Hippy Song Review

Justin Howell who goes by the name J. Howell is the most refreshing sound coming out of Memphis Tennessee. He is the modern contemporary R&B singer/ songwriter blending his spiritual roots with R&B giving us the feel of an upgrade on 90s greats of R&B.

On “Talk” J. Howell takes us on a journey of a strained relationship. The song’s intro is unique giving us the feeling of ancestorial love rising from the depths of the underground. Then we are introduced to the simple infusion of R&B beats and the crooning voice of J. Howell as he hovers over every word making the sound of love feel like the erasing of hidden scars. And how about Rapper Kyle Hippy with a bridge that transforms the song just when you think it can’t take our emotions any further. Kyle gives us a look into his view of the woman in the relationship living above her means breaking it down in vintage Hip Hop lyrics like “She’s a bad b”tch, she just might sell your life.” And the blend of J.Howell and Kyle Hippy singing “me baby” is just memorable. “Talk” is a masterful R&B vocal performance that deserves to be at the top of the charts.

Here is a quote from his Youtube feed on what his n=music means to him, “Music has been like a double-edged sword for me, but once I allowed my music to guide me instead of me take the lead, I found myself as an artist. I, now, realize that my voice is my talent and my music is my gift to the world. And I plan to invoke change—one soul at a time.” – J. Howell

J. Howell “Talk” available now in Apple Music from the album that is easy and enjoyable to listen to “Red Room.”

You can also find J. Howell’s “Talk” on the Billboard Adult R&B Chart at No. 26 and rising.

About the Author:

Ricardo Williams is the author of “Unchained Mind” Powerful Lifechanging Toughts on Peace, Love, and Success.”

The Hollow of Emotional Pain

What’s in the hollow region of our chest? The region that bores that constant feeling of discomfort? And what can I do about it?

If you’re like me and you are constantly checking for discomfort areas in the body, you probably spend a lot of time working the chest region.

Closeup shot of an unidentifiable businesswoman holding her chest in pain

You probably go through intermitent moments of breathing deeply or holding your breath to feel the extent of your discomfort.

But what is the cause of the discomfort? It could be caused by a number of factors, but I am going to point out one key factor to you. The hollow region of your chest is filled with your insecurities. In fact, it is so filled to the brim that it feels like it is tearing you apart. Remember yesterday news, the time you’ve spent consumed by its negativity? It’s all part of the make up of insecurities in your subconscience. It is now placing a burden of strain on you. So what’s the solution to this problem? Stop all that you are doing. Find a quiet place where silence is your only company. Maybe a warm bubble bath.

Focus only on your breathing and the positive things in your life. You are special. You are wonderful. You are loved. Keep those thoughts for a period of 15 to 30 minutes taking deep breaths throughout the process, and feel the difference as you emerge from it.

For more details on managing stress and thought control, checkout my new book “Unchained Mind” by Ricardo Williams. See link below.


A Promise Fulfilled – An Unlikely CEO

When Jolyn Robichaux asked me to write her story, I almost doubted myself. I had just published Dear God, An Impatient Conversation with a Patient God. She was an atheist and a good friend and loved my book. She loved my style of writing and she believed that I was the perfect person to tell her story. She had done a lot of writing herself but never brought to a level where it could be published. I had hoped to finish her book in her lifetime, but she passed on February 2017. I committed myself to the promise I made to get her story published.
I had to decide on an approach to the story. It was rich in African American history spanning from 1928 to 1992. I didn’t want it to read like a history book, but I wanted to tell a story about a middle-class African American family growing up in the segregated Black Belt of Chicago and what life was like for them. I then wanted to show how the product from that family Jolyn Robichaux grew from a child to a teenager and then to adulthood. I wanted to show how historical events shaped her way of thinking.
I wanted the theme of the book to be finding one’s life purpose. I showed how she was thrown into her purpose with the sudden death of her husband as she juggled taking over the realms of Baldwin Ice Cream Company and raising two children as a single mother. I wanted to show her despair and as she turned to alcohol to ease her pain and then to her realization that she must stand up to this fight with a clear mind as she pulled herself together. I wanted to show how smart decisions could bring speedy results when things are going wrong.
I wanted to show how women dealt with men before the #Me Too# movement. I wanted to show her character curve as her personality went through changes.
I never forced myself to write. I waited for the story to reveal itself to me. I had to do extensive research to ensure that the time-line of events was accurate. I had to research some of the famous and not so famous people mentioned in the book. I sat on the story for some time to be sure that I was feeling it, and eventually, I did and it felt good.
It feels good to keep a promise to a friend and know that where ever she is, Jolyn Robichaux can be proud of this book. I thank her family for trusting me to write and publish her story.

Ladies and Gentlemen I present to “An Unlikely CEO The Jolyn Robichaux Story.”

An Unlikely CEO: The Jolyn Robichaux Story

Family and Friends, let me introduce my new book “An Unlikely CEO.” It is a remarkable story about one woman’s journey from a housewife to a CEO. Jolyn Robichaux was a contented housewife in her 40’s raising her two children at home when her husband Joe Robichaux suddenly fell ill and died. She had to make a decision on whether to run their ice cream business or pay and train someone to manage it. She decided to manage it on her own. She ignored her doubters who advised her to sell the business as the idea of a woman running her company in the 70s was unheard of. Not only did she manage the business and took it out of receivership, but she turned it into a profitable multimillion corporation. She was named “The National Minority Entrepreneur of the Year” in 1985 becoming the first African American female to receive the award. Vice President George Bush presented her with the award.

The book spans the period from the 1920s to the 90s taking us through her childhood years. It focuses on the challenges of being a middle-class family in the Black Belt of Chicago. It also touches the many compartments of her life and the obstacles she had to overcome to be successful.

“An Unlikely CEO” is a fast-paced vivid read that combines humor and sadness in a way that will tug at your heartstrings.

The book is now available at Amazon.com.

The Making Of A Hit Song – Someone Knew

What happens when an artist captures his emotions from a break up with every heartache, despair, and hopelessness? The answer is simple. You get a potential hit song. Such is the brilliance portrayed in Sleep Walker’s latest single “Someone Knew.” With the deepest of lyrics and an accompanying melody, “Someone Knew” is both captivating and gravitating. It is the kind of song that speaks to our innermost hurts. and forgotten pain lingers yet leaves us holding on to hope.

I had a chat with Recording Artist/Song Writer/Producer Jermel Walker who goes by the name Sleep Walker about his latest song “Someone Knew.” It was the second time I heard the song and everything it meant seemed to marinate within me as I kept it on replay digesting every bit of the melody. I immediately sent him a text firmly believing that he had a hit on his hand. He told me that the song was already getting a lot of buzzes and positive feedback.

Ricardo : First of all Jermel let me congratulate you on a brilliant piece of work. What I love about “Someone Knew” is that it is easy to relate to and you captured the perfect sound for it.

Sleep Walker: It definitely came straight from the heart and everything about it was a real experience. At that time, I was going through a breakup and got the phone call that my ex was really moving on and taking the next step with someone else.

Ricardo: Who is the featured artist on the song? Her vocals are beautiful, powerful and yet so subtle and innocent.

Sleep Walker: Her name is Kristen Warren. She is a good friend of mine from Florida. I was able to capture the message I wanted to with a female vocalist and really bring the vision forward.

Ricardo: Tell me a bit about your musical journey.

Sleep Walker: I grew up in church being the musician at my dad’s church in Florida. I started producing and writing and the rest is history.

Ricardo: How did your name Sleep Walker come about?

Sleep Walker: Sleep Walker came about during my younger days. I grew up with lazy eyes, and people assumed I was high all the time, so the name “Sleep” kind of stuck and my last name is Walker, so it worked itself out.

Ricardo: What’s down the pipeline for you?

Sleep Walker: I want to continue to grow my brand. I love singing and writing but also want to continue to produce and produce other artists.

Ricardo: In a way, Khalid comes to mind when I picture your style.

Sleep Walker: He is one of my favorites, along with PartNextDoor.

Ricardo: You’ve put a twist on the title “Someone Knew” which gives it a deep meaning.

Sleep Walker: Yes, “Someone Knew.” You know in life nothing happens in a vacuum. In a relationship, there is always one person that knows what’s going on. There is a gut feeling that starts to happen even if we choose to ignore it. So, someone knew was perfect.

Ricardo: Thank you Jermel. I love the song and the video down to the last beep at the end.

You can check out Sleep Walker on all social platforms like iTunes, Spotify, Youtube, and Tidal. I encourage you to listen, like and share “Someone Knew.